How to finger a girl

Read it now, and your partner will be thanking you read: experiencing pleasure later. Reminder: The labia are the lip-like folds of skin around the vaginal opening. Some are short, some are long, some are short on one side and long on the other. Some are wrinkly, others are smooth.

We can all agree that the 'in-and-out' technique doesn't work. Plenty of women have laid back and faked a very convincing moan while their partner fiddles around down there, doing what feels like searching for gold. If fingering is performed incorrectly, it can actually be a really painful and uncomfortable experience. But, we have to cut him some slack. There is no doubt that it is a confusing act.

Whether it's part of foreplay or the main event, fingering can be super pleasurable for people with vulvas—as long as it's done well. Bad digital stimulation isn't just a huge turn-off; it can also be incredibly painful! That's why we spoke with some sex-positive women about how men can up their fingering game. Now, there's one big caveat here, which is that every woman and every vulva is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all method when it comes to fingering.

Finger banging is an underrated art. When done right, it's incredibly hot. But whether you're new to sex or an unofficial vagina expert, fingering can be incredibly intimidating — everyone has different preferences, and hey, anatomy is complicated. They say sex is like pizza: When it's bad, it's still good. We beg to differ, especially when it comes to sex with your hands.